Sunday, December 20, 2009

December!







December was another great month for STATS! The teams are now in full swing and having a blast. This month we presented at Reeths-Puffer Middle School, Mona Shores Middle School and Fruitport Middle School.
24 performances were given and 402 students reached! That's over 700 students in 2 months!
Keep up the great work teams!
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!




Friday, November 20, 2009

November Performances!





This month STATS presented at Bunker Midde School, Oakridge Midde School, and Whitehall Middle School. This was the first time out for our teams and it went great! The students really learned a lot and the teachers really like the new format.

30 performances were delivered and 312 students reached!






Monday, October 19, 2009

Mini-Retreat

We just finished our Mini-Retreat where teams present to each other. This allows them to gather feedback and tweak their performances before they go out in November. The skits are hilarious and I'm so excited to see how middle school students respond to them this year.

We are almost completely booked for the 2009-2010 school year already. There are 5 spots remaining so contacted us soon if you have not already booked your school.

Tuesday, September 22, 2009

Welcome Back!

We are busy gearing up for our 16th year of STATS! This year's teams are fantastic! We just completed our Retreat and the presentations are coming together wonderfully. This year we are going to be having 3 teams who focus on Sexual Health and 3 teams who focus on Substance Abuse. The Sexual Health team will present on day 1 to the students and then the Substance Abuse team will come in to discuss drugs, alcohol and tobacco as well as review the 4-Way stop with the students. We believe that this will allow us to cover all the topics more indepth and increase the students level of understanding.

Monday, June 1, 2009

A Great Year!

The 2008-09 school year was a great success for S.T.A.T.S. We presented 151 times in 12 different Muskegon area middle schools. Over 2700 students were taught that abstinence is the healthiest choice for them to make. Our students put in 3124 volunteer hours!

Have a great summer!

Tuesday, March 17, 2009

Bottom Line: Abstinence Saves Taxpayers Billions

* $6.9 billion is the annual cost savings to taxpayers since abstinence education has been funded for teenagers nationwide.
* $4,080 is the annual cost of a child born to a mother 17 years old or younger.
* Since 1991, when federal abstinence funding began, there has been a 43% decrease in teen births to15-17 year olds, despite a 25% increase in that age population.
* Only 40% of teen mothers graduate from high school and only 2% complete college by age 30. * Sons born to adolescent mothers are 2.2 times more likely to be incarcerated.
* The Centers for Disease Control attribute 67% of teen birth reductions to fewer teens being sexually active (known as abstinence). ("By the Numbers: The Public Costs of Teen Childbearing, " The National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, 2006)

VIRGINITY PLEDGES IMPROVE LIFE OUTCOMES FOR TEENS
* 2/3 less likely to experience teen pregnancy.
* 70% still virgins by age 18 compared to 37% of non-pledgers.
* 1/3 less likely to give birth as teens or young adults.
* 50% less likely to give birth out of wedlock.
* 17% of pledgers had unprotected sex compared to 28% of non-pledgers.
* 53% of pledgers had sexual intercourse between ages 19-25 compared with 87% of non-pledgers. (Abstinence funding should be expanded to single-college age young adults.)
* Pledgers were 12 times more likely to be virgins on their wedding night.
* There were NO NEGATIVE risk factors associated with virginity pledges. (National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Healthy, 2004, research done by Robert Rector and Kirk Johnson, Heritage Foundation)

HEALTH RISKS TO TEENS WHO BECOME SEXUALLY ACTIVE
* Increased teen pregnancies, abortions and sexually transmitted diseases that can lead to infertility, genital cancers and death. (CDC, 2004)
* Teens who have abortions experience elevated rates of suicide, depression, substance abuse, anxiety and other mental health problems. ("The Duty to Screen: Clinical, Legal and Ethical Implications of Predictive Risk Factors of Post-Abortive Maladjustment," The Journal of Contemporary Health and Law and Policy, Winter, 2003; 33-144)
* Sexually active females are 3 times more likely and males are 8 times more likely to attempt suicide. Suicide rates have doubled in 40 yrs. (Sexually Active Teenagers Are More Likely to Be Depressed and To Attempt Suicide, Robert Rector, Kirk Johnson, Ph.D. Lauren Noves, 6/2/03) * of sexually active girls are depressed all, most or a lot of the time and have 3 times greater depression rates than abstinent girls. Ibid
* Sexually active boys are twice as likely to be depressed as abstinent boys. Ibid
* Sexually active females are 5 times more likely to be victimized by dating violence than girls who are abstinent. (www.webmd.com, 8/2/04; Pediatrics, 8/04)
* Sexually active teens are much more likely to take drugs and drink alcohol. (Columbia Univ. National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse, 2004)

Pam Mullarkey, Ph.D. Founder/Co-Director Project SOS, Inc.

The above was taken from Free Teens USA's website www.freeteensusa.org

Monday, March 9, 2009

S.T.A.T.S. visits Muskegon Heights Middle School

S.T.A.T.S. teams recently presented for the 7th and 8th grade Science classes at Muskegon Heights Middle School. We had a great time! Here is what one of the teachers had to say about our team:

"I had RP students involved with the STATS program in my classroom today. This is by far the best educational group dealing with teen pressure that I have seen. Our students were engaged throughout because of the professional manner in which it was presented. I can't wait to have this group back in our building."

Thanks MHMS! We can't wait to be back again, too!






Saturday, February 21, 2009

STATS Teams in Action!

So far this month, STATS teams have performed at Reeths-Puffer Middle School, Fruitport Middle School, and Nellie B. Chisholm (Montague) Middle School. Still to come at the end of the month is Muskegon Heights Middle School. A very special THANK YOU to the teachers and adminstration for allowing us to come and share this very important message with their students! We couldn't do it without you!












Sexual Abuse

Since you were little, you were told how to protect yourself when crossing the street or what to do if a stranger tried to get you into his/her car. But what do you do when it's your own relative, friend, or date who is making you feel uncomfortable by touching you in a sexual way?

Do you know that one out of three girls is sexually abused by someone in her family? For boys, the figure is one out of six. And these are just the reported cases. So many kids are afraid to tell.

What is sexual abuse?
You may not be sure what kind of affection is normal within a family. Hugging, kissing, patting each other on the back, and even playful wrestling or tickling are all normal.

But if someone, touches your private parts, insists that you touch theirs, or French kisses you, against your will, that is sexual abuse.

Some abuse doesn't involve touching. Pornography or taking pictures of undressing or nakedness is still sexual abuse.

What do you do?
The first step is to break the silence. Tell someone.

Who do you tell?
Tell an adult you can trust. And if the first person you tell doesn't believe you or doesn't do anything to help, find someone else to tell.

Some examples are: a parent, teacher, school counselor, pastor, or youth leader.

If you're in immediate danger...
Go to a friend's house
Invite friends over
Make a phone call to a caring adult

You are in charge of you

You are the only one in the world who has the right to say who will touch your body. By saying or yelling "No" to an abuser, you're letting him/her know that your body is not up for grabs.

If you're alone in a room with someone who makes you feel uneasy, leave the room immediately. Maybe they haven't actually done anything yet. Maybe they're just sitting or standing too close, or looking at you in a wrong way, or trying to block you, get you in a corner, or acting and speaking as if they know you more than they really do. Leave the room. Don't worry about manners or appearing rude. It's much better to be impolite than to be abused!

Good news
Be clear on this. If you (boy or girl) have been raped, molested, or abused, according to the full, complete definition of virginity, you're still a virgin. Your virginity is something you give away, not something that can be taken from you. So if it was taken, consider yourself still a virgin and protect who you are.

Don't wait
Muskegon County Protective Services receives approximately 3,000 child abuse complaints every year. Probably twice as many go unreported. This means that most people don't report abuse until they are an adult, or not at all.

Pregnancy

"First comes love, Then comes Marriage, Then comes a baby in a baby carriage."

This little tune from your childhood speaks volumes. The truth and order of it holds more wisdom than you may find on TV or the radio today. The world around you says, "if it feels good, do it." Or you hear, "You and me baby ain't nothin' but mammals, so let's do it like they do on the Discovery Channel." But you're not just an animal, give yourself more credit.

Getting back to the little tune, first you develop a loving relationship with someone. Then you make a lifelong commitment of marriage, and then you make love (have sex) and at some point, the natural outcome could be a baby.

As STATS teams present throughout the county to over 4,000 middle school students each year, the same comments are heard in all schools.

"I knew I was having sex, but I didn't think I'd get pregnant."
"We used a condom. I don't know what happened."
"I didn't think I could get pregnant from just one time."
"We didn't plan on having sex. It just happened."
"I thought we were protected."
If you are still a virgin, high-five yourself! Be proud. And hang in there. But if you've had sex and think you may be pregnant, don't put off being tested. For your health and the baby's, the earlier you know, the better. For free testing call Muskegon Pregnancy Services, and set up an appointment. Everything is kept confidential - nobody else needs to know.

Muskegon Pregnancy Services
Hours: Monday & Wednesday 10 - 4 PM
Tuesday and Thursday 10 - 7 PM
Phone: (231) 726 - 2677

Brad's Story

Brad wishes that life were as simple as playing a tape in a VCR, rewinding it to a better spot. But you can't rewind life. However, Brad can learn from his mistakes.

"At the beginning of this school year I had a girlfriend named Kristen. We were good friends and could talk about anything together. She started coming over to my house and we'd hang out in my bedroom because there were so many people in my house. We just started out sitting on my bed and talking and having pillow fights and stuff. After a while, we began kissing and it was hard to stop there. Soon were involved in heavy petting. I still believed I could have stopped before we actually did it. After a few months of this, I didn't want to stop. Then one night, we had sex. It was not what I'd wanted after all. I felt dirty and I knew she did too. It changed everything. I hated myself for doing something I've grown up believing was so wrong. Our relationship was destroyed and we both regret what we did that one night. We both lost our virginity and that's something we can't get back. I keep wishing that I could rewind my life and have a do-over."

Diane's Story

Learning from her mistake allowed Diane to become a Secondary Virgin.

"I knew this guy for a long time but hadn't seen him in a while. When we saw each other, we both noticed each other. He was good friends with my older brother, so he'd come over a lot. Every time he came over, we would flirt and talk a lot. My family joked with me and said we liked each other, but I always denied it.

One day, my family went out of town and left me at home. Someone was staying with me, but she didn't get to my house until late that night. My brother's friends (like four of them) stayed at the house to look out for me. After everyone left, that one guy came back. We kissed and "messed around," then he left. But he started calling me. Every time he came over, we would somehow end up alone. We would talk and laugh and kiss. He made a remark about how I could sneak out and go to his house. Being only 14, I thought that would be cool. So, one night, I did. I didn't plan on having sex with him, but one thing led to another, and I did. I told him I didn't want to, but he said, 'You know you're going to do it, so would you rather do it with me or would you rather it be someone else?' I thought for a second and still said no. But when he wouldn't give up, I just went for it. I thought I'd end up doing it anyway, so I might as well have done it with someone I knew real well. We still talked and remained friends, and a few weeks later, I snuck out again and slept with him again. We stayed friends for a few weeks, until some people found out and we stopped talking to each other. I saw him recently when I was out with my friends; I said 'Hi.' He said the same, then introduced me to his girlfriend, but not with my name. Instead, he called me 'Matt's little sister.' That hurt. I knew then how shallow and stupid I'd been. I deeply regret what I did. I've made a promise to myself and to God that I will never do it again. I've set boundaries so I'll never do anything even close to that again. Although this is my Secondary Virginity, it will be with me until I'm married. I'd give anything to take back what I did with him."

Secondary Virginity (noun)-The Decision to STOP Having Sex.

Secondary Virginity is a fresh start for you if you've already had sex. It means, no more sex 'til marriage.

Even though you cannot physically become a virgin again, sex is way more than just a physical act. You know what it feels like to hurt, to have regrets, to have a broken heart, to be humiliated, or to lose respect for yourself.

To protect your emotions, mind, and spirit, you can make a new, fresh start and move into sexual freedom! Sound good to you?

Read Diane and Brad's Stories!

Will this be easy?
Probably not. But remember, most important, things aren't easy to do. You've already found out that the "easy" path is not really easy either.

Choosing secondary virginity may mean setting new boundaries with your boy/girlfriend. Setting and holding new boundaries will take creativity and effort. Think of new things to do, places to go, people to hang out with. And stay away from alcohol and drugs. They're a sure way for you to lose control.

What's next?
Stop having sex - now.
If you have had sex, even once, you are at risk for a sexually transmitted disease. Make an appointment with your doctor.

If you are pregnant or think you may be, call Muskegon Pregnancy Services at (231) 726-2677.
If you've already had a baby, make sure you don't give him or her a brother or sister until after you're married.

If you have had an abortion, through Secondary Virginity you can avoid the pain of having another one.

The decision is yours. You may think, "I've already blown it. There's no point in me even thinking about 'saving myself' for my future spouse." But there is hope. Today, you can choose Secondary Virginity - a fresh start! Make the Pledge to be abstinent!

An Important Step
Tell your friends, family, pastor, or counselor about your decision. They will respect you for choosing this rough road and going against your sex-crazed culture. They can help you stay strong when you are tempted to break your pledge.

Friday, January 2, 2009

What Does it Take to be in STATS?

Recruited from area high schools, STATS members first of all, have a strong belief in the message that saying "no" to sex until marriage is the healthiest choice for teens. Second, they've got the courage to stand up in front of their peers and tackle the tough issues of sex today. When the media - music, movies, TV, etc are saying, "go ahead, everyone's doing it", teens need to be strong enough to fly in the face of today's culture. And third, they care. It makes a difference to them that younger teens are buying into an unhealthy lifestyle and they want them to know that everyone's not doing it. With these qualifications out of the way, here is the path our STATS members take.

In September, we hold our annual STATS Kick-Off. This is a time when we show video clips of the previous year and talk about what it takes to be in STATS. This includes:
a teacher or principal recommendation
a personal interview
academic eligibility
ability to miss school one day a month
exceptional attendance
ability to stand up and speak publicly
attending the annual training retreat
time for creating and practicing new material for team presentation
signing a one-year commitment to stay abstinent from sex, drugs, alcohol, and tobacco

Whew, If that sounds like a lot, well, it is. But holding out for quality students is worth it and has been a key to Muskegon STATS serving as a vital health component for our county and beyond!

Thursday, January 1, 2009

STATS, Straight Talk About Tough Stuff, is a group of high school students who creatively share information on a topic that can save lives - sexual abstinence. Targeting middle schoolers, we use skits, dramas, music and personal talks to give out the message, "Everyone's not doing it!"

Topics such as Love vs. Infatuation, How Far is Too Far? STD Prevention, Alcohol and its Effects, How Do I Say "No", Is There Such a Thing as Safe Sex?, Why Wait 'til Marriage, Sexual Abuse, Secondary Virginity, and many more are included, fresh and updated every year.

Teen to Teen - And That's Why it Works
When it comes to sex, teens reaching teens is highly effective and we are told repeatedly that our impact is memorable. This is documented not only by post-test results and student comments, but by the number of current STATS members who joined largely because of the impact STATS had on them when they were in middle school.

STATS in Muskegon is in it's 15th year! And each year we've grown and expanded to the point that we are now in 14 middle schools. To cover this many schools, we have six teams of 8 students with six team leaders.

Give 'Em What They Want
In a nation-wide study, when asked what they wanted most in a sex education curriculum, 84% of teens interviewed, indicated that they wanted more information on how to say "no," not condoms or birth control but,"How to say 'No' without hurting the other person's feelings."

Yes, that's it. Teens want to know,"How do I say 'No' to sex, but 'Yes' to relationships?"

The STATS message gives teens what they want, a reason to say "No" and ways to say it.